Left or Right Hand: With this RING, I thee Wed…,

Artifacts such as jewelry, watches, and tattoos signify individual preference and cultural meaning.  Across different cultures, engagement or wedding rings are emblems that symbolize the pre and post wedding status of committed couples.  Cultural display rules differ according to traditional customs and norms.

In many Asian, European, and Western countries, it is customary to wear wedding rings on the finger adjacent to the smallest ‘pinky’ finger on the left hand.  However, in Russian, Indian, Central and Northern European countries, wedding rings may traditionally be worn on the right hand. 

Some cultures use both hands to symbolize engagement and marital status.  In Brazil, engagement rings are worn on right hands; then after wedding, the rings are displayed on left hands.  Cultural norms are the opposite in Germany and Netherlands; engagement rings are worn on left hands and wedding rings are worn on right hands. 

So, have fun traveling to new lands, but remember that wedding ring display rules may have different traditions and translations in other cultures. 

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Trump’s Handshake Dominates Japan Prime Minister Shinzo Abe

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Although Japan Prime Minister Shinzo Abe sat at preferred LEFT in photo opportunity, Unites States President Trump displayed that he was in charge during their long, awkward, handshake.  Both men show personal power in their wide-spread legs.
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LEFT is preferred because ABE should have had the UPPER hand in the handshake. This was not the case. Trump diminished Abe’s seated advantage with a dominant handshake grip so powerful that he twisted Abe’s hand to a submissive, yielding limp.  Ouch!!
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Trump controlled the entire handshake from start to finish with excessive hand pumps.  Trump’s eye gaze was around the room at audience; Abe prompted Trump to, “Look at me,” during photo op.  In addition, Trump patted Abe’s hand several times and pulled Abe’s hand towards Trump’s body.  While patting may appear comforting or congenial, for Trump, it is all about control. Trump’s double-handed handshake completely covers and controls Abe’s hand.
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Abe indicated his discomfort immediately after the forced handshake ended. His eye gaze looked away, his mouth gasped open, and his hands grabbed the chair arms to lift his body away from Trump.  Both men moved their torsos away from each other.  Perhaps Abe would have preferred the traditional greeting of the Japanese bow.
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Trump even commented about his, “Strong hands” and gestured that he pulled upward and towards himself.

Trump then flashes the American powerful gravity-defying ‘Thumb-Up’ emblem.   In the US, thumbs-up is a positive sign that everything is A-O-K!  The Japanese understand this to mean “good” and Japanese males tend to use the thumbs-up more than Japanese women.

However, the ‘Thumbs-Up’ can be interpreted as highly offensive in Thailand, Middle East, West Africa, and South America.

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Emblems: Hand Gestures that Speak the Language

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     Body Language EMBLEMS (typically hand and arm gestures) nonverbally communicate messages that are understood by people within the specific culture, group, association, or team.
     Verbal words aren’t necessary because emblems have their own specific definition and are understand by those within the group.
     For example, NFL officials use EMBLEMS during the football game to convey the decision of the play to the fans, the teams, and the spectators.   According to the NFL Rule book, there are 36 Official Signs.
     American Sign Language uses an entire language of emblems to communicate to the hearing impaired.
     Emblems are not universal, so a non-sports fan may not know what the referee’s hand gesture for “Unnecessary Roughness” means.  Or, a person who does not ‘speak’ American Sign Language will not understand the sign language hand gestures.
     An enthusiastic ‘thumbs-up’ in the USA may have an offensive interpretation in West Africa, South America, Thailand, or the Middle-East.  So when you travel abroad, watch out!
    Emblems in one culture do not translate the same meaning across different cultures.

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Don’t be DUPED: Lying HANDS Give it AWAY!

Let’s say you’re listening to a person tell a story, but the more the other person talks, the more his/her story just doesn’t make sense or add up?  Should you believe or not believe?

Observe the entire body, including the HANDS.  What are the hands doing (or not doing) as the speaker is describing the events?  Compare the speaker’s hand gestures to his/her normal or baseline hand gestures.

Are the hands illustrative and in-synch with the verbal narrative?  Do the hands flow naturally with the elements of the story?

Or, are the hands restricted and not moving at all?

Hmmmm…,  begin…, to wonder why…,

Research indicates that during deception, a higher % of people DECREASE their hand movements.

Hand Gestures During Deception Chart

If the person is lying, it could be that his/her brain is trying to juggle and interweave FIBS with FACTS and not be FOUND-OUT as liars.

The brain scrambles to put together a believable lie.  This creates cognitive load and overload on the brain and the body.

When more energy is focused on concocting a lie, the body has less truth-based natural movement and flow.

If the other person’s body looks stiff and the hands look restricted and un-natural, then dig deeper to investigate reasons why.

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Decrease in hand movements may point to deception.   

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What’s at stake in the situation?

The higher the stakes or rewards, the more the person may be motivated to lie in order to get the desired and avoid the undesired outcome.

People may think that increased finger and hand movements signify lying, but other factors such as increased nervousness, tension, stress, worry, or fear may be contributing to the increase.

During deception, it’s more likely that there will be less finger and hand movement.

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Be Seen. Be Heard. Be Ready to Face the Camera. Accurate Body Language Interviews LivInAwe Photographer Ken Peters

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Creatively Positions You to…
Be Seen. Be Heard. Be Ready to Face the Camera.

A photo reveals not only the facial expressions and the body positions in a point of time, but it also captures the essence of the moment. The personalities of the models or subjects and the spirit of the interpersonal interaction are conveyed with the flash of the shutter speed. Photographer Ken Peters of LivInAwe Productions has the talent and the experience to create intriguing, memorable shots.

Accurate Body Language invites you to listen to Ken Peter’s podcast interview, as he shares photography tips to get the perfect shot:

Ken Peters Headshot 1BBold. Dramatic. Memorable.

  • Together Ken Peters and photographer Christina Kafkakis created his amazing professional headshot that compels interest, strategically lures, and directs viewer’s eye gaze.
  • Square palms exposed in upward angled position convey open trustworthiness.
  • Hands symmetrically frame and focus:
    • Ken’s face to the commanding (slightly off) center of attention, as well as…
    • the subject model from Ken’s perspective for the perfect shot.
  • Alpha leadership facial expression displays authoritative eye contact and presence.
  • Headshot artistically portrays LivInAwe Productions brand of photography and videography: Be Seen. Be Heard. Be AWESOME.

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Ken Peters of LivInAwe Productions
Offers ‘Camera Ready’ Tips:

TIP 1: Know Your Photographer
Know what area of photography your photographer excels. LivInAwe productions excels in product and nature photography. Understanding the roots of manual photography allows Ken to venture off to other avenues, such as, head shot photography. Yet, understanding client demands keeps Ken from shooting newborn and wedding photography. Know your photographer’s strong points.

Don’t confuse Head Shot photography with Portrait Photography. One is great for hanging on the corporate walls, but doesn’t transfer well to social media. Portrait photography can be expensive where head shot photography is very affordable. If you’re paying hundreds to a photographer for a head shot, you hired a portrait photographer.

TIP 2: A Picture Should Tell A Story
We’ve all seen them, the head shot in front of a generic white wall taken by a smart phone. How does that speak to you, or your business?

Today, the trend in head shot photography is to remove the subject from the studio and pose them in a place of business. Maybe it’s a farmer posing next to their crop, or a cake decorator in their studio. Let your head shot tell your story and describe your personality. Are you a flamboyant, Richard Simmons type? Or, are you a confident and cerebral, Steve Jobs type. Your personality is your brand. Your head shot should serve a better purpose than being recognized at a coffee house meeting.

TIP 3: What Do I Do With My Hands?
If you’re not comfortable in front of a lens, if you can’t relax, it will be difficult to capture an image that you’ll be happy with. A photographer, good at their craft, will take time to help you relax. Your friends or business associates, wife or mother, don’t see you as a tense person worried about how they look. They see casual, smiling eyes, sparkle, calm, persuasive, loving. If you hire a photographer to fire off a few snaps, and call it a day…you’ve hired the wrong photographer. If you’re posing to look like the image you want to project, and not who you are, you’re not going to look like you.

So, what do you do with your hands? That comes down to the story you’re trying to convey. Accurate Body Language expert Janette Ghedotte recommends displaying hands open (not crossed over chest, behind the back, hidden, or in pockets), natural, and in power positions (e.g., steepled fingers, hands on waists with arms expanded) that are congruent with the client’s brand image.

TIP 4: Dress, Makeup and Hair
When clients ask about what clothing to wear at the photo session, Ken suggests professional attire and clothes that are expressions of their individual personality. Tie or no tie, dress or pant suit? That comes down to personality and how approachable you want your appearance to be. Makeup doesn’t need to be accentuated for a head shot as photographers use editing software to remove blemishes.

Ken advises clients to place attention for the best possible hair. Hair can be very difficult, and time consuming, to fix in editing. Consider having your hair cut, or styled, a week or two before the photo session. The day of the shoot, bring hair care products to the location. If the shoot is on remote, bring a mirror to check ‘photo-ready’ appearance. If possible, bring a friend to the shoot. They can help with those last minute adjustments as your photographer prepares to shoot.

TIP 5: Imagine Yourself Outside The Box
By this point you’re comfortable with the idea of having your head shot taken. You’ve selected what you’ll wear and have had your hair styled. You’ve packed your hair care products and called a friend. You’ve considered the poses you would like and the personality you’d like to convey. You’ve selected a background that tells a story and speaks to your profession. Is there anything else?

This is the time to examine your story and work with the photographer regarding photo poses. Ken knew what he wanted for his head shot. The hands, with two thumbs together, was a technique cinematographers checked the aspect ratio of scenes they planned to shoot. This method speaks to my profession as a photographer and videographer. It also creates a frame that draws the viewer’s eyes to Ken’s face, which is what he want the viewer to remember.  Ken’s face and is his image and his brand. A black shirt and background, with the proper lighting and the right photographer, made for a great head shot. Every time Ken gives his business card, he gets a compliment on the photo! Ken’s face is his image and his brand.

TIP 6: Practice Makes Perfect
If you’re a business owner you may be asked to conduct an on-camera interview. Prepare yourself for that event by setting up a video camera and recording yourself. Conduct a mock interview, then look at the results. You may see things about your performance you want to change. You may hear things about your oral presentation you may want to improve. You don’t want to be caught in front of a camera, mic thrust in front of your face, and nervously stammer your way through a recorded interview. Therefore, practice, record, and critique yourself beforehand.

Speaking to a camera isn’t common, nor does it come natural. It takes practice to become comfortable with the process. Give yourself an edge on the competition by practicing.

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Accurate Body Language Interviews New Zealander Deb Kinvig regarding the Hongi, Haka, and Other Cultural Aspects

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Hear the Words; Understand the Body Language!

Originally from New Zealand, Deb Kinvig grew up in a multi-cultural community, near the capital of Wellington. As a registered psychiatric nurse, former police office, and professional executive coach, Deb developed excellent body language skills to accurately read people.

Throughout her career, understanding nonverbal communication helped Deb to accurately access situations, safety, and danger when:

  • policing
  • working in mental health with forensic psychiatric clients
  • managing maximum and medium secure units in the Provincial Hospital for the government of British Columbia.

The Body Always Tells the Truth.

Listen to the words; but, more importantly, understand the body within the cultural context.

Accurate Body Language invites you to listen to Deb’s interview, as she shares cultural and body language information about her native New Zealand and her current home in Vancouver, British Columbia:

Where in the world is New Zealand?

New Zealand

New Zealanders / Kiwis / Maori People:

Citizens of New Zealand are multi-ethnic and are known as the indigenous Māori or Kiwis from European descent. New Zealanders are warm, friendly, soft-spoken, and welcoming people. Initially, they may appear shy or reserved. They are gracious people and enjoy hosting guests and tourists with excellent customer service. The three official languages of New Zealand are:

  • Māori (Polynesian language)
  • English (day-to-day business)
  • New Zealand Sign Language.

Māori language and expressions intermingled with English can be very confusing to visitors.

Māoris are natural performers with a rich history that can be trace back many generations. The Māori heritage represents important connection and traditional lineage back to Māori royalty. The Māori culture is extensively expressed by all New Zealanders.

New Zealand HAKA:

The ancestral Māori haka is a fierce, pre-battle, warrior chant, and challenge performed by the Māori tribe to proclaim unified alpha-male power and to intimate the enemy. In loud cadence and vigorous synchronized fashion, the Māoris shout out the haka words and display powerful expanded body postures, slapping of the hands, pounding of the chests, and stamping of the feet.

In modern times, New Zealanders continue the traditional haka performance:

  • before sporting events (e.g., All Blacks rugby team)
  • to welcome distinguished guests
  • to acknowledge great achievements
  • in school performances
  • and on special occasions or funerals

Deb Kinvig offers the following cultural and body language tips when visiting New Zealand:

Tip #1:
When conducting business, dress in traditional, conservative (i.e., darker colored suits and dresses) business attire. Bring your umbrella and raincoat for rainy weather conditions. Dress casually when not attending to business related work. Arrive on time for scheduled meetings. Understand that the concept of time being fluid and that meetings can often be late starting and concluding.

Tip #2:
Māori people have an traditional, endearing, and extremely close nose and forehead touch with eyes closed upon greeting one another, called the HONGI. This greeting may also be accompanied with a handshake.

Americans are not accustomed to the Hongi greeting, and its physical nose-to-nose touch may be considered too intimate and uncomfortable. 

Males should wait for females to initiate the Hongi greeting or extend her hand for a firm handshake with good eye contact. Women shake other women’s hands.

Tip #3:
Initial greetings may include surnames and titles, “Hello, Mr/Ms/Mrs…,” Once rapport has been established, follow the Kiwis’ lead to less formal conversational tone, and let the Kiwis initiate an invitation to address them by first names, rather than titles or surnames.

Tip #4:
In New Zealand culture, family and interpersonal relationships are very important. Therefore, upon greeting and getting to know them, ask politely about their family. Once they trust and accept you, you are accepted until behavior is shown to be untrustworthy.

Tip #5:
Greetings between friends is a tipping of the head in an upward nod of acknowledgement.

Tip #6:
Common social greetings and phrases include:

  • Pakeha (New Zealanders of European heritage) use greetings of:
    • “Hello, how are you?” for formal
    • “Hello or Hi” for informal.
    • “Gidday (Good day),” “Yeah, Gidday,” or “Gidday, How’s it going?”
  • Māori may use the following:
    • ceremonial greeting, “Kia Ora (Welcome).”
    • “Tena koe,” and “Tena koutou” are polite “Hello” greetings to one, two, or many people, respectively.
    • Goodbye, “Haere ra (Farewell),” “E noho ra (Stay well),” or “Ka kite ano (See you later).”

Tip #7:
If you have been invited by New Zealanders for a dining meal, consider “bringing a plate” of food, side-dish, or desert to share. 

As the native hosts, let them indicate to you where you should sit at the table.

Traditionally, elders may bless the meal before eating. Meals are often served ‘family-style.’ 

Keep hands above table, and elbows off table. Do not sit on the dining table. Eating and table manners are European / Continental with fork in left hand and knife in right when cutting food. When finished with your meal, place knife and fork parallel with handles facing toward the right on your plate.

Tip #8:
In business interactions, good eye contact is acceptable. However, when interacting with an elder, show respect with less direct eye gaze.

Tip #9:
Māoris shy away from being the center of attention. However, the youth love extroverted American culture, especially African American culture.

Tip #10:
In both the American and New Zealander cultures, the ‘thumbs-up’ and ‘OK’ hand gestures are considered positive hand gestures.

Tip #11:
It is offensive to give New Zealanders a backhanded “V” victory gesture, so do not make this mistake.

Tip #12:
It’s important to note that New Zealanders are generally soft spoken, gracious, people. Match and mirror their voice qualities. You may need to slow down your speech, and soften your voice volume. Fast, loud talkers are not appreciated, so don’t be too loud, brash, and overbearing. A sense of humor is often part of the New Zealand communication style.

Bonus New Zealand Tip:
Once you have earned their trust and friendship, New Zealanders have an “Open-Door” neighborly attitude. Guests are always welcomed to stop by (without telephoning or making an appointment) for a cup of tea!!

Although Deb now resides in Vancouver, British Columbia Canada, she keeps close family and business ties to New Zealand, her country of heritage returning home on a regular basis.  Deb specializes in supporting companies to grow people and successful business, with a focus on supporting excellence in leadership, and culturally safe business practices.

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